The Dull Ache of Friendship Rejection

There are days when I have to remember this poem

People come into your life for a reason, a season or lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON.
It is usually to meet in need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
To provide you with guidance and support;
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. 

Some people come into your life for SEASON,
Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. 
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They used to give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it. It is real. But only for a season. 

LIFETIME relationship teach you lifetime lessons;

Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. 

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. 

It is said love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Hormones are racing and it makes truck in my life even harder.

Last night I had the opportunity to see an old friend, somebody who once was important part of my life. However as the poem goes seasons change chapters close and we have not seen each other for five years and the last time, conversations were okay but I didn't get that feeling of old friends picking up where you left off we were merely acquaintances.

I have never been in the in the circle of their friends, although they were for me in mine. So when my sell by date expired (marriage for them) I was left out in the cold. Ironically they had met a couple of my friends and they had infiltrated there in the circle.

I have been debating whether to go to the event where our paths would cross I knew I would feel both feel very awkward and be reminded of that feeling of rejection.

So I decide to take positive steps firstly I decided not to attend the event. I decided if they contacted me to say they were up the road was I going. I would make a decision at that point; there has been no contact. I seeked out this poem to remind me that some people are here for just the season and therefore to make a point today to remember the times when I really appreciated them in my life and give thanks for them at that particular time. Hoping that the process of being thankful will heal the dull ache of loss.